|13.05.2019| Maid of honor speech

Good evening everyone

I hope you all have the wonderful time celebrating the wedding for these two lovebirds.

First of all, thank you everybody for being here tonight, I know some of you has traveled for such a long way and it really means lot for the bride and groom as well as their family. Obviously, you have impacted on their lifestyle some point; otherwise, they would properly not invite you from the first place.

For those who don’t know me, I’m Shana. It’s a pleasure for me to be here today as a maid of honor. Couple months ago, they asked me to become their maid of honor, I immediately said YES! cause that’s what a best friend is supposed to do (even though I’ve got a free meal that night but I wouldn’t say because of that). Then I went home and look it up. It would be great if I had a dictionary next to me but then I realized most of books at my house were written by Australian. Then, I asked my uncle Google how to make an impressive unforgettable speech, he suggested me a song or rap but for the God sake of this wedding, it wont be happened. I realized you all have sick of speech after speeches, the good new is this one is going to be the last one, the bad new is you couldn’t finish the night if I don’t finish this speech. Despite the fact [12] years experience with [8] times being a bride maid, this is my very first maid of honor speech, so please cheer me up…

For all of you to know her and looking at her today, so beautiful, so gorgeous, so sweet but just let me tell you one thing “DON’T LET HER FOOL YOU”. This Thao My is the well fine mature version of the one I used to known in High school.

Well, I met her in Autumn 2006 and instantly became best friends cause we have so many thing in common: we both have parents who love us unconditionally (I am just being politely), we both love sitting at the last table (and you may wonder what kind of students who sit at the last table), yeah you r rite, we both suck at chemistry. But I think the most wonderful time for us is gossiping about someone else’s love life. It may explain why I know most of you guys name here even though you don’t know who the hell I am… the biggest thing different between us is if you ask her for a coffee date and she said she would pick u up at 11:30, it means she wouldn’t show up until 12:15 at least. And when i said “she”, I meant the majority of Vietnamese women.

All joking aside, I am surely blessed to call you my best friend as My is the most loving, caring, loyal and brave, all around inside and out the most beautiful person I have ever met. She is the sister I have never had.

She would do everything for a friend. She’s been there with me time and time again, not only share the best time of my life but also , helped me through my worst. I could count her for anything I need, whether I need an Uber driver,  a body guard, an excuse with parents to sneak out the house for couple days taking vacation w bf. She is brutally honest and doesnt afraid to speak out of her mind. If I dated a guy and he cheated on me, she would do what a millennium these day normally do, she exposed him on Facebook in public settings.

While writing this speech, there is one specific memory pop up and I think I should include in this speech. End of 2015, early of 2016 she said to me “I don’t think I could be like you, dating with a western guy. They are so different, the culture, the personality. I dont think I couldn’t end up with one” And as you seen, Matt is the one of the most “Asian” guy I ever met. Like he normally described himself “I am Chinese”. So moral lesson guys “Never say never”.

Being friend with a hot girl in town is special. It becomes a norm for me, people added me on Facebook, Instagram tried to talk to me, just to get to know her better. I used to be asked “How could you be friend with her that long, she is so popular”. I guess people tend to look at the friendship between women in ironic way, but as long as you have different taste in men, everything else could compromise. On a serious note, I think our core value of friendship is trust. We always support each other’s decision even it could be the craziest one, because we trust. And Matt, in Octorber 2017, you was just “another guy” but tonight you are one of the most important decision of her life. For all of that, I wanna say “Thank you”. Thank you for coming to her life, thank you for make such a drastically changes to one of my best friend. As a significant one who witnessed this love from very early stage, i have seen her growing a lot. She is more confident, more mature, but the best thing ever happened from this relationship is I have never seen her that happy for the last [13] years. Once again “Thank you”. Looking at this weeding, preparing everything by herself without wedding planner, while the spouse is away 8157 miles, I dont think we need the better circumstances to prove that she is qualified enough to be a good wife in the future.

In conclusion, don’t take any one advice cause it will bite your ass and don’t give any one advice. So my advice to you, Matt; if you ever make a mistake flowers will tell her, you say sorry but everything come with cheese on top (I means heaps of cheese) will tell her you learn the lesson. Second thing don’t forget to say these 3 little words to her every single day “YOU ARE RIGHT” and I am not saying this because I know the fact all Vietnamese women are such a control freak in marriage but as a 30 years experienced married man, my dad normally says: “Happy wife, happy life”

At the end of every maid of honor speech, I am supposed to give a relationship advice which is very confusing me cause maid of honor means someone is single but I do what I am good at: researching and this is what I found “”Love has nothing to do with what you are expecting to get—only with what you are expecting to give—which which is everything.”

To conclude my conclusion My, i couldnt count how many times i write and re-write again and again this speech cause it is hard to wrap up [13] years of friendship in less than [10] mins speech. Coincidentally, I found this quote couple days ago “Every stage of life you have a friend. You are the lucky one if you have same one for every stage”. And I am that person. I am not hesitated to admit i coudn’t think how my life would be without you. You know how good i am at writing but this is going to be very few times I dont know how to describe how much I love you, how much i am grateful for your happiness. And I’m beyond to be excited for this moment watching next chapter of your life unfold together as husband & wife. I wish you life time of laughter, joy and excitement for many adventures ahead.

Last but not least, swipe right more often, love is right in the air!