|08.03.2024| WOMEN, REASSURANCE or Mind game of Insecurity

“Men like wine, women like milk” Someone once told me that on my 26 birthday. I laughed but comprehend that statement differently each year passing by.

I admitted there were days that I do feel like such an old bottle of milk which someone forgot outside overnight. I guess every-single-woman at some point in her life, feeling the same way (in fact many times I heard from friends/ clients that she feel being ugly, not smart enough, not good enough comparing others for their significant one. This insecure mindset is such a norm and it may explain why we need assurance often than men could imagine).

However, at the same time, I reckon these self destructive statements showing how women are humble but yet so arrogant at once . We strongly believe that our partner could make better choice but not smart enough to make their own decision. It is such an a mind maze that women created by ourselves and being upset with our own imaginable insecurity. . Social media misled an independent woman image in modern life these days. You can not be happy all the time. You can not be at your peak forever. It is normal and should be normalized to feel discouraged sometimes. This helps to push you forward. Women tend to forget this often. . Snoop Dogg once said “That’s mental health to be able to celebrate yourself, to be able to give yourself some credit. We are always depend on confirmation and we depend on someone to make us feel like like we’re worthy or we’re validated. When in actuality, you should thank yourself for being validated. Because you are the one who got to get up everyday and do this, walk this walk, talk this talk and do what to do to be you. So Thank yourself :)” . So maybe on this Women’s day, women should remember thank herself rather than celebrating how we had fought for our freedom. And guess women these days all could buy their own flowers or own drink, but once for a while, we need hearing reassurance from our loved ones. It is just different 🙂 Happy belated women’s day!